It’s been awhile….I know! For most of the women reading this you know what I mean when I say “life has just gotten in the way.”
If it’s not running our own businesses, it’s the cleaning, the scheduling, the programming, birthdays, deaths, sleeping….you know….the usual.
Which brought me to this next blog about TIME and what we actually do with it. It’s so precious, but yet we spend so much of it doing nothing really…..wasting time away. Hear me out before you say “AS IF”…
Time is defined as the duration in which all things happen, or a precise instant that something happens.
So what are YOU doing with those precise instances?
There are so many great articles out there about how ‘busy’ all of us are…. doing nothing. Right? We are ALL super busy ALL the time. With or without kids – just ‘busy’.
Friend 1: ”How was your weekend?”
Friend 2: ”OMG sooo busy.”
Sounds familiar right?
I know why I personally get so ‘busy”. I do not work a 9-5 job or a 12 hour shift-work job. I run a gym which opens at 6am and closes at 7:30pm. This means I ‘work’ 6-7am, then I get a 2-1/2 hour break, and then I ‘work’ for another hour and then I get a 1-1/2 hour break, and then I work for an hour and then get yet another 2 hour break and then work for the last 3 hours of the day.
As you can see, I actually don’t ‘work’ a ton of hours. But I rarely get an opportunity to block off a few hours at a time to focus on one or two tasks. Lets not forget that during my breaks I MUST check all social media pages to see how popular I am and check in to see how great everyone else’s lives are. You know where I’m going with this, right?
When did all this happen? And when did we become so addicted?
Of course I HAVE to have an IG and Facebook account in order to run my businesses nowadays – I mean, how else do you market your business? You no longer have to communicate with people face-to-face and cold call people to drum up business. You just have to sit at your desk and show how great you are through a computer where everything in life is hunky dory and nobody has life problems…….but you. At least that’s how things seem to appear through our screens.
According to recent studies, did you know we spend an average of 1.72 hours on social media alone?? That doesn’t include the regular stuff you do online for work on a daily basis.
So let me ask you this…..how often do you ‘live in the moment’? Maybe when something traumatic happens because you actually have to stop for a few mins (after you post the details on your Facebook page for everyone to see). And then some time passes (days..maybe months) and you’re back to your old habits of checking in every time you get a break.
Other than sugar, for me personally, I believe Social Media is MY other addiction – there I said it. I don’t even know what I’m checking in for to be honest, but I DO check in regularly on Facebook and Instagram just to “see”. Don’t get me wrong, these avenues are great for promoting your business nowadays but other than that, it’s just to be nosey and see what all your ‘friends’ are up to…right?
Sometimes I feel like I don’t even have much to talk about when I see old friends because I follow their life stories online!
I could go on about this stuff forever but really all I’m trying to get at, is trying to figure out a way to just “be” in the present moment. If we could spend more time observing what is actually around us and directly in front of our eyes at that moment, I believe we would have more clarity.
I was lucky enough to block off 2-1/2 hours of my Monday last week to attend a Meditation Workshop. For those that know me well, you know that this was an extremely difficult task for me to do. Learning how to actually stop, breathe, and just “be” …..was hard. But I promised myself I would go and blocked off the time in my schedule. And out of that workshop came this space….
I created a small space in a spare room in our basement where I can just “be”. It has my iPod with some meditation/spa music, some candles, some books and a comfortable spot to sit or lay down. I have been in there a few times in the past week – only for about 10mins at a time but it gives me enough time to just chill out and read or just sit and think. No phones, no interruptions. Eventually I will turn this into 20mins….maybe 1/2 hour?
Our brains get SO full. The internet, the phones, the TV’s, the computers…..I honestly don’t know how we survive. I’m not sure how one is able to focus anymore because there is SO much going on all the time. I constantly see this at the gym …..people always say “the gym is MY time – it’s the ONE hour where I get to do my own thing without any interruptions” but yet I see them on their phones throughout the hour (more than once) so really it’s not THEIR time….its yours and work, and friends and kids and so on.
My goal is to start tracking my time on Social Media and start setting time limits – just enough time to post my blogs and be done with it. Because really…..lets face it, I believe we all have enough problems of our very own that we don’t need to be bogging down our precious thoughts and time with other people’s problems.
Mom used to always say “worry about yourself, not others.” Our world is so backwards now….it’s ALL about worrying about other people and what’s worse, is that it’s generally about people we don’t even know or actually care about!
An interesting experiment would be to “track” how many times you check your phone in a day. There are a few different apps out there that will do this. Try it…you’d be shocked.
Take that extra 1.72 hours per day and just BE with your kids and your family and your friends. Perhaps you may feel a bit more ‘full’ in all the right ways. Leave your phone in your bag when you’re at the gym. Leave your phone in the car when you go for lunch with the girls. Leave your phone in the trunk when you’re driving. Try just leaving your phone at home for the day. God forbid someone may have to contact you at work on the landline in case of emergency.
What I hope you take away from this, is that you stop being so ‘busy’ all the time and focus your energy where it needs to go….you will find that you may create a little more time for the right things!
“I don’t live to train, I train to live.”
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